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The Lies We Tell Ourselves

The saying “may you live in interesting times” is playing out not only on our collective Canadian doorstep but inside our homes and lives in the most intimate ways, unfortunately. The “interesting times” I’m referring to are, of course, the continuing verbal and threatened financial and annexation attacks against us from our southern neighbour and its leader, Donald Trump.

So here I am again, less than a month later writing about the political developments that have occurred to the south of us over the last few days; I first wrote of this situation here.

Since November, 2024, we have had to listen to falsehood after egregious falsehood cascade from Mr Trump in a constant torrent. Here are some of the more appalling ones, with direct statements from Trump in quotation marks followed by my factual rebuttals.

Falsehood: “The fentanyl coming from Canada is massive.” Reality: in 2024, 19.5 kg (43 lbs) of fentanyl coming from Canada was seized by U.S. border control. In the meantime, 9500 kg (21,100 lbs) was intercepted coming from Mexico.

Falsehood: “Stop the invasion!” Reality: in 2024, 198,929 people who were attempting to cross illegally from Canada to the U.S. were detained by American border officials. Meanwhile, 2.4 million people crossed illegally from Mexico.

Falsehood: “The U.S. is subsidising Canada to the tune of $100 billion” [as time has gone on, Mr Trump has changed this number to $200 billion, $250 billion and $300 billion. As far as I can tell, he just makes up a number and says it]. Fact: the trade deficit is 45 billion, caused by oil and gas shipments to the U.S. as part of the CUSMA free trade agreement that Mr Trump himself insisted on, orchestrated and then proclaimed at the time of signing in 2018 as “a truly extraordinary agreement for the United States, Canada, and Mexico.”

Given that the U.S. carries much larger deficits with a number of other countries, this complaint seems to be another of Mr Trump’s red herrings. Furthermore, and I can’t emphasise this enough, the U.S. is NOT subsidising Canada. In order to push his agenda, Mr Trump deliberately ignores the meaning of the word subsidy, which is a grant or gift of money. A trade deficit is not a subsidy.

Falsehood: “Canada doesn’t even allow U.S. Banks to open or do business there. What’s that all about?” Fact: American banks have been operating in Canada for many years. Citibank, Amexbank and J.P. Morgan Bank are all examples. These banks are required to operate under Canadian banking rules, a system that protected Canadian banks during the 2008-09 financial crisis when 166 American banks failed.

Falsehood: “Many Canadians want Canada to become the 51st state.” Fact: Nothing could be further from the truth. Poll after poll shows that Canadians overwhelmingly want their sovereignty.

Falsehood: “If they become the 51st state, the tariffs go away.” Fact: This comment is not only reprehensible blackmail but is also senseless. That nugget may be coming out of Mr Trump’s mouth and showing up in writing, but he would never allow it, even if it were something we would accept. No, his intent, if he can, is to turn us into a voiceless, spineless colony, fit only for what we – and our resources – can do for him and his wealthy cronies. Mr Trump is known for his vengefulness, and he would surely punish us as much as possible.

But in this muddle of Mr Trump’s deceitful pomposity is a bigger worry, and that’s the lies we are telling ourselves. Unlike Trump’s, however, ours are lies of denial, of shock, of fear. 51st state? That’s just a joke. It’s in bad taste, but it’s a joke. The border and tariffs? He’s not serious. It’s just bluster. It’s a negotiating tactic. He’s not going to do tariffs, for sure. He would hurt his own people too much. Besides, we know how to do this. We handled him last time. We got this.

The truth is that we need to grow up and recognise Trump’s behaviour for what it is. This time he’s a very different animal. He’s experienced. He has been planning for four years and has for the most part installed in government a bunch of stooges whose only qualification is unwavering loyalty and an ability to do whatever they’re told; certainly thinking is not a requirement. This time, he has a very definite if peculiar agenda. That’s why he’s repeatedly telling these falsehoods. Say something enough and those around you will start to believe it just through sheer repetition. And through this behaviour he will also create lots of support for whatever action he decides to take against us.

I have heard it said in some quarters that Mr Trump’s tariffs against us – and likely Mexico as well – are enclosed inside a Trojan Horse, and I agree. All of the bombast around how we have to fix the border – we have now spent more than a billion dollars on appeasing him over these so-called issues and there will be more – or face tariffs, is, as I have suspected from the beginning, nothing but a distraction from his real purpose. To me, his clear agenda has always been to try to cripple our economy, to break us, to force us to dance to his tune. To play the puppet master and take enjoyment from our discomfort and fear. To generate lots of breathless attention on his leadership prowess.

To put it bluntly, Mr Trump is likely going to try to force us to our knees by economically corralling us into some sort of terrified acceptance of him as our “leader.”

In the 11th hour, Mr Trump, continuing to enjoy his role as puppet master, paused the tariffs. There was a collective sigh of relief all over the country, but I could also hear the whining and complacency returning: can’t we go back to normal? I just want things the way they were. But there’s another saying that we need to remember: fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.

We have been explicitly warned. There are certain things we have that Mr Trump wants, and and he will continue to try to get them. So whether or not we have to deal with tariffs, it’s incumbent on us to insist that our elected officials take appropriate actions to protect us from ever having to experience this again.

In other words, it’s high time that we go our own way, disentangling ourselves from the U.S, taking down interprovincial trade barriers, expanding our markets, buying local, and never, never making a so-called free trade agreement with the U.S. ever again.

Remember all those falsehoods I listed? Does any one of us really think that there won’t be more? Lots more? And that like the so-called border problems, they will all have moving targets at their core that depend on Mr Trump’s puppet master whims or whatever deceitful and/or bizarre pronouncements that fall out of his mouth? Let’s not forget, even though Mr Trump constantly presents himself as some sort of genius businessman who thinks “outside the box” he’s probably the only business owner on the face of the planet who has gone bankrupt operating a casino.

And additionally, when we see the underlings such as Howard Lutnick, Mr Trump’s choice for head of the commerce department, who during a press conference shouted that we Canadians need to “respect” the United States, we know without a doubt that we are truly finished with any sort of nation-to-nation relationship.

Many of us have friends and family in the U.S. and those personal relationships shouldn’t change, but as a national entity, the United States is no longer an ally, friend or even an acquaintance. For all practical intents and purposes, we’re adversaries, and should common sense prevail causing Mr Trump to withdraw the financial losses he plans to inflict on us and his own citizens, going forward we should be extremely dubious of any kind of trade agreement. And respect? That’s earned, not bestowed.

For the most part, we Canadians are easy-going, live-and-let-live people, probably too much so. But threaten our sovereignty and we will get our backs up. In short, Mr Trump has mistaken our kindness for weakness, thereby exposing what he really thinks of us. Not all relationships, even exceptional ones, have an indefinite shelf life, and it’s clear to me that that is what has now transpired. When you declare economic war on your so-called “best friend and ally,” then it’s time to move on.

It’s Been A Long Time – from Ramblings

So many years since I have ventured into the WordPress realm. Much has changed & I’m trying to get my head around it. Hopefully it posts OK. Hello …

It’s Been A Long Time – from Ramblings

An old blogging friend – from the time I first started 12 years ago – has returned to blogging after caring for her elderly parents and subsequently writing a book about her experiences. Please click the link above to learn more about her book and how to order if you’re interested.

Blogging Experience

Salted Caramel https://saltedcaramel670.wordpress.com/2021/04/19/blogging-insights-blogging-experience/ asks the question What has your blogging experience taught you?

Well, good question. In blogging age, I’m an old timer. WP has been a second home for eight and a half years now, so I’ve been around a bit.

Great Slave Lake, Northwest Territories

I think that through my blogging experience I have learned to get my thoughts out better. When I first started blogging, I hadn’t done much writing for quite a long time and I found the process cumbersome. Not the writing itself, but the thinking required to get a thought out in a streamlined or cogent manner (or maybe I’m just getting old). Whatever the problem was, blogging has been good for my brain. Writing, and in particular, reading the writing of others, has helped to keep my thinking sharper.

It has also taught me a lot about socialisation. I’m an introvert; in some ways, a rather big one. According to Myers-Briggs, I’m an INTP. The I stands for introverted. I don’t like parties, crowds or big gatherings. It’s not that I have any kind of discomfort; crowds don’t scare me or worry me; it’s more that I prefer to be with others in twos, or threes, or fours, and especially with those I know well.

Another thing is that I’m inept at small talk. I can’t stand around with a drink in one hand, a canapé in the other and wittily hold forth on the merits of Camembert over Brie. At a big party, I feel like I’m nowhere. I’m the one who will be sitting alone, reading my phone and wishing I was somewhere else having a glass of wine with a good friend.

But WP allows me to be in a crowd without being in a crowd. I don’t have to do small talk (I REALLY don’t like small talk). I can read interesting posts and then leave the room. 😉 There’s a lot about blogging that works well for an introvert.

Caribbean Sea, Dominican Republic

But my blogging experience has also taught me that there are drawbacks to it, too. You get to “know” someone, and then they disappear. Sometimes, they will say in a post or comment that they are leaving, but most of the time, there’s just … silence. Cue the tumbleweeds.

But that’s kind of the point, right? In blogging there’s an element of non-commitment commitment, like it’s not real life or a real thing. And maybe the person you’re chatting with isn’t real anyway. The “person” could be a construct, a complete lie designed to fool you, confuse you, or otherwise mule you.

And there are other issues. Issues that are made of people’s worst characteristics.

I had only been on WP for a couple of months when I saw a “takedown.” A blogger announced in a post that another, very popular blogger had made unwanted sexual advances to her over email; apparently, he was taking advantage of her as a childhood sexual abuse survivor. I had only recently started following the popular blogger, and found him to be witty, funny and irreverent, but … I also found his comments section to be clubby, exclusive and arrogant. And there was something else, too. A sort of jockeying for position among the commenters that I found off-putting.

Pacific Ocean off North Vancouver, British Columbia

Just as I was thinking of dropping the popular blogger, the complaint around the unwanted sexual advances occurred. I had no idea who was right or wrong and felt very uncomfortable as people started taking sides and voicing their opinions back and forth.

So I backed off. I later learned that the popular blogger removed his three WP sites and stopped blogging, at least here or at least under that name. As a result, I considered dropping blogging altogether, because I wondered if this type of situation was more common. As someone who had fairly recently extricated herself from a relationship with a malignant narcissist, I was cautious.

And I suppose it is common. Like any other situation where there are humans, contretemps can, and does, occur. Blogging is a microcosm of the wider world. And as in the wider world, there are always going to be those who try to manipulate, obfuscate, lie, cheat, and otherwise cause mayhem, so you have to be as on guard as you normally would be in the real world while you find your feet in the blogging world.

And you? What has your blogging experience taught you?

Help Clear the Way — PhotoBlography3

NOTE: This post contains slideshows and if you are reading it on your phone, it may be best viewed direct from the SITE, rather than in the READER. The world is kind of a hard scrabble free-for-all right now, as greed and the lust for power seem to be clouding the judgement of many, often […]

Help Clear the Way — PhotoBlography3

My blog-friend Allan, who lives just outside of Edmonton, Alberta, makes some very simple, but very effective points in his photo-post, “Help Clear the Way.” Please click on the link to read the full piece.

Jill, this One Is for You

Jill Weatherholt and I have been following each other for about seven years now. She’s strong and kind and lovely and a published author. You can visit her site at https://jillweatherholt.wordpress.com/

She’s also an orchid whisperer. She keeps orchids in her office and they love her as much as she loves them. There’s lots of growing and blooming.

So when I saw this delicate light green orchid, I immediately thought of Jill. I don’t know what it’s called, but to me it’s Jill’s Orchid.

🙂