The Narcissist’s Piano, and Other Foolishness

I found this in my search terms: narcissist piano. I did the mental equivalent of shifting from one foot to the other while I mulled that over. What does it mean??? Is it a typo? Is the searcher wondering if pianists are narcissists? Is that an actual type of piano? I mean, this is the […]

Emotional Labour and the Seasonal Narcissist, Part II

NPD narcissists consume a huge amount of emotional labour. And before you know it, you can be down on your knees, completely exhausted, while the narcissist continues to, at the very least, be extremely dissatisfied. There is no filling them up. They are never full. They are never sated. They are never content. They simply […]

Emotional Labour and the Seasonal Narcissist, Part I

Today I listened to CBC radio’s Tapestry presentation on the subject of emotional labour. It’s an interesting topic and a type of work to which someone has finally given a name. Essentially, emotional labour is anything that people do that requires an emotionally invested outlay of energy. For example, we expend emotional energy keeping track of and […]

Donald Trump and the Cult of Narcissism

The US election campaign is winding down and there’s not much left to do except the counting. There’s been an absolute, batshit-crazy amount of talk, writing, crying, and gnashing of teeth over it. And with good cause. For multitudinous reasons, the country that I live next to and admire is poised to possibly elect as […]

Moving on after the Narcissist

A lot has been written about the difficulties involved in leaving a narcissist, especially if there are children involved. A lot has also been written about going “no contact” or involving a third party to minimise contact if there are children. What I haven’t seen a lot about is the business of how to move […]

To Moderate or not to Moderate? That’s the Question, but What’s the Answer?

As bloggers, we get all kinds of comments. They are intrinsic to the whole bloggy bit. I look forward to comments. I like making comments. They are the lifeblood of the blogging world. They range from the hilarious to the poignant. But every now and then, we can get comments that prompt a different range […]

For J

This is for my beloved sister J, who passed away on December 26 after a short struggle with cancer. I love you, J.   You have always been kind and tough and thoughtful and practical. And you learned early how to deal with the family’s narcissists. Before it was popular, you knew a kind of […]