This is for my beloved sister J, who passed away on December 26 after a short struggle with cancer. I love you, J.
You have always been kind and tough and thoughtful and practical.
And you learned early how to deal with the family’s narcissists. Before it was popular, you knew a kind of no contact and lived it. Your own kind.
Distance did it. Physical distance. Mental distance.
I, much younger, didn’t really know you.
Not until much later. Not until now, really.
And then, we faced another narcissist. This time, together. Looked at our heritage.
But you handled that, too. Adroitly, as you always have. Even as you grew smaller and smaller and your world grew smaller and smaller.
The one who wasn’t “smart.”
The one who always knew but didn’t fuss. Just lived.
I’ve had a good long life, you said.
I wish it was longer.
I wish I didn’t have to say good-bye.
In the Net! - Pictures and Stories of Life 
This is a beautiful tribute to your sister. I’m so sorry for your loss, Lynette. ❤
Thanks, Jill. 🙂 She was very much loved.
So sorry for your loss.. Lovely words about your sister! 💜
Thank you. 🙂 We miss her so very much.
What a wonderful post. I’m very sorry for your loss. She was undoubtedly very proud of you.
Thank you, Nelson. It was really difficult to see her suffer so and not be able to do much about it.
So sorry about your loss. A sister is very special.
Thank you, Jenny. It is a special bond.
My deepest condolences on the loss of your sister ‘J’.
The door shall not close
© J.M Tacken
We shall not close the door or say goodbye
We simply stand and wave
The world now left – a different place
As your life we couldn’t save
We know at times ~ your life was hard
You had obstacles and pain
Though you hardly ever grumbled
This was simply not your way
Amongst those you loved ~ now left behind
Of family and treasured friends
Know that they will smile once more
But their hearts ~ need time to mend
You have taught us how to conquer
And taught us what is brave
And this, we’ll use in our own lives
With what we do ~ each day
So if we must ~ wave to you
As you leave this earthly coil
It is not final – nor complete
We just wished you’d stayed a while
Our hands, will be held in your hands
As you journey on to rest and
With love ~ we say goodbye dear J
In knowing you ~ we were so blessed
Hugs darling, I hope you find some solace in those words.
❤️🌹❤️
Jen – thank you so much. 💛 What a beautiful poem you have shared. And yes, I do find solace in it and you.
Take care as you look after your parents. 💜
You are welcome, I am. Having a rest tonight . Take care of you too ❤️🌹
So sorry to hear that. Loss of the people we love is just so damn hard to swallow. Hardest thing in life. Lovely tribute to your sister.
Thank you. Yes, it is hard.
Having three sisters myself, I know how lovely it is to be close to a sister, and how terrible it must be to lose one.
Thank you very much. It’s been difficult, but I’m starting to learn to live with it.
So sad about your Sister. A beautiful tribute. It is hard to lose a loved one. Hugs to you.
Thank you.